What Does BDSM Stand For?
The regular and usual vanilla sex practices can get boring after a certain time. This monotonousness in your sex life could create a negative impact on your relationship with your partner. Your body will crave for something more. You will have some hidden desires and fetishes regarding sexual pleasures you want to fulfil. However, many are scared to express that to their partners.
One of the reasons for that is BDSM is a highly misunderstood sexual practice in our usual societal paradigm. You might have seen BDSM in various movies but have you ever tried it? Well, for those who have tried it, can tell you how wonderful their experience was and once you try it, you will fall in love with it. There are many ways in you start incorporating BDSM acts in your sexual play.
Now, are you wondering what the hell is BDSM? What do these four letters stand for? Well, if you only see the definition of BDSM, you will not understand the entire paradigm of this world of unknown sexual pleasure. You have to understand it deeply. Also, before you go onto start BDSM with your partner, you need to have a clear idea of what exactly BDSM is.
Remember, being aware of what will happen is the best way of handling any unforeseen or unwanted consequences that might happen while practising BDSM. So, in this article, let’s dig deep and find out about what exactly is BDSM.
Understanding BDSM
BDSM is primarily sexual expressions divided into groups. These groups are; Bondage and Discipline (B&D), Domination and Submissive (D&S), Sadism and Masochism (S&M). BDSM is a kink and it does not have to involve sexual intercourse always. There are certain acts in BDSM which is more stimulating and pleasurable than intercourse. So, now let’s see what these three groups of BDSM, B&D, D&S, and S&M mean;
Bondage and Discipline (B&D)
With bondage, you are allowing someone else to restraint you for the sexual play. It is more about finding pleasure for the one who is in bondage. Various props like ropes, blindfold, handcuffs, and many other restraints can be used in bondage.
Now, the discipline is all about making the submissive obedient to follow orders, rules, and play the types of sexual acts that the dominant wants. Discipline is the link in the relationship between a submissive partner and a dominant one.
Domination and Submissive (D&S)
As you can already guess by the word domination, there will be a person who will dominate in the act and the other person will submit to that domination. However, in BDSM, it happens in a more consensual way. The dominant dominates the submissive after the consent of the submissive.
So, this domination happens in physical, emotional, or in a more dynamic paradigm. The roles of dominant and submissive could take place outside the couple’s bedroom as well if they wish to do so. However, some prefer to play the role in a more erotic environment only.
Sadism and Masochism (S&M)
You may have heard the term ‘pleasure in pain.’ You might have got confused that pleasure and pain are two completely opposite terms. However, with BDSM, you will know what it is like to have pleasure in pain. Sadism and Masochism or S&M is one category of BDSM which can provide you with that.
In S&M, one partner plays the role of ‘sadist’ and the other plays the role of ‘masochist’. Now, the sadist will inflict the pain and the masochist will take that pain. Before, performing S&M, you and your partner should take time to discuss the boundaries openly. Remember, the key to finding pleasure in pain is good communication. If you can have it, then you will surely feel the pleasure even in great pain.
You need to understand that you don’t have to experience all these categories. During a BDSM act, you will realize your actual character trait. You will realize whether you are dominant or submissive. Also, you might find out whether you like to have pain or inflict it (S&M). Moreover, you will know whether you love to be tied up in bondage or get whipped around for discipline. Through BDSM, you will come to realize your own identity with much clarity. That is why BDSM is more than just sexual exploration.
Communication is the Key
Before you make your mind to have BDSM sex with your partner, you have to understand that communication is the key. If you and your partner don’t sit down together and have an open conversation regarding BDSM and your fetishes, then the situation could get out of your hands quite quickly. Basically, you need to know about the boundaries of your partner.
While discussing the boundaries, you will have to keep eye contact with your partner because you would want to portray that you are transparent with what you are saying. If you have any kind of fetish that you want to have during the session, convey that to your partner and see whether your partner is okay with it or not. If you get excited by handcuffs or being whipped, then tell that to your partner.
You and your partner will have to understand that proper negotiation and consent will the key to finding true pleasure in pain because of you and your partner will be comfortable through the entire BDSM processes.
